
Even though I never blogged about it, I completed my usual, personal “year-in-review” process at the end of December. As the year winds down, I typically spend a few days looking back over all of my “documentation” (planner, journals, blog posts, photos, that kind of thing) to remind myself of the entirety of the year-just-ended. Basically, I review what-I-did and what-I-thought-about-it. It’s a nice way for me to “finish” off the old year . . . just as the new one is starting. Thus completed, on January 1, fresh journal and new pen in hand, I wrote these words . . . “In looking back, I can see that 2025 was not my best mental health year.”
And it really wasn’t.
Although I thought I had bolstered myself for what was to come, it became abundantly clear shortly after the inauguration that I really had not prepared myself (at all) for the ongoing, relentless, and tedious onslaught of bad news. I was completely undone by it all. My energy was drained. Despair set in. And it wasn’t just the breaking of the government. I was also completely beset by AI and the enshittification of technology, social media in general, my appalling lack of an attention span, and the sheer . . . grossness . . . of so, so many people.
I’ve had it, though. I’m officially sick of myself now.
I am determined to . . . recalibrate . . . in 2026.
I want to find my way out of that pit . . . and back to myself.
I decided to move slowly through January with a “state of strategic stillness,” giving myself some breathing room, some thinking room. No resolutions for me. No word-for-the-year. No goals. No plans. No new programs or classes or self-improvement ANYthings.
Just . . . space.
And . . . time.
To ponder and figure out how to find my way back to myself. Because even in this shitty historical place we find ourselves right now, we still need to get through our days as best we can. Y’know?
For the past many years (over 10 for sure), I’ve been starting out the year by creating a More/Less list. A list of things I want MORE of in my life and a list of things I want LESS of in my life. My lists always start out way too long and very scattered. But I keep refining and revisiting, combining ideas and streamlining . . . until I come up with something relatively simple and (usually) surprisingly balanced.
This process works well for me. It helps me come up with a general direction for myself . . . without pinning me down to specific (and probably premature) annual goals. Here’s my current list as it stands right now, mid-January. I’m sure I’ll keep refining it. Because it’s a process, and it will continue to evolve.
But this is where I am . . . for now.
I’ll continue to write about things on my More/Less list. Because, of course, there are stories, thoughts, and ideas behind everything you can see on my list. (These things, after all, have made it this far in my process for a reason. . . )
Things feel better already for me . . . just to have started this process. (Even though this really is a shitty historical time to be living through.) I plan to keep picking through the shards of my broken hopes and dreams here in 2026 . . . while trying to maintain my sanity – and my humanity.
I need to find a way to live in this world, even though the ground has very much shifted under my feet.
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How about you? How are you feeling about the new year unfolding before you? And . . . feel free to ask me any questions about my More/Less process, and let me know if you’d like me to address anything you see on my list.

I knew 2025 was rough for you but I don’t think I understood just HOW rough and I’m sorry about that. (Another reason to wish I lived closer so I could come over with my knitting and stick a glass of wine in your hand and try and make you laugh.) I think your list is wonderful and gives you some direction on a daily basis that should help. My seasonal mantra of “this, too, is living” is not only appropriate for trudging through winter but also for living a full life even in this shitty time in our country. The world may be falling apart but that doesn’t mean we have to as well. XOXO
I think life would be so much better for so many people around the world if we were not dealing with daily chaos, stupidity, and greed. More and Less seems like a good way to frame things to help maintain sanity and humanity. I have an appointment to see a therapist next week because I’m not sure I’m managing very well on my own. (Just something to think about …)
Who could have prepared for — who even imagined — the level of BAD (on so many levels) that we’ve been dealing with?
Thanks for your openness. It really was a terrible year, made worse by (for me anyway) a sense of powerlessness in the face of all the — well, everything. I’ve been thinking about folks during Jim Crow and the civil rights struggle. It was a long terrible time. But people really LIVED as well. Not sure where that thought is going, except that community and connection (things I don’t always gravitate toward) are part of it.
I would like to banish 2025 from our collective memory for many reasons. I knew it was going to be bad and it was. My only explanation for how I didn’t become thoroughly depressed is lots of exercise (yay, endorphins) and getting a dog, though I suspect the latter didn’t so much make me more joyful as it did give me something else to focus on. This year, I’m trying to find more practical solutions for making the world better. I think that means more volunteer work or doing things that help others, donating more money to causes that I care about, and doing more to make the world beautiful. I hope your list really helps and that you can have a decent year in spite of the … well, everything.
You’re More list feels very thoughtful to me. I’m happy that writing posts seems to be on your More list.
I’m loving the more lists.
Upheaval is the word I would use to characterize this year.
I started to write a comment yesterday and just trying to articulate my feelings was too overwhelming. I am so sorry you have been struggling, Kym, and I think the above comments show that all of us have been doing the same in varying degrees. I have been so overwhelmed by events in the public square on top of the the death of my husband, my brother’s debilitating health issues, my own health issues, my new dog’s health issues, etc., that some days I just don’t want to get up. But Boomer makes me, which is a good thing. I think all of us need to establish a personal curriculum for 2026. I am going to learn something new this year, concentrate on methods to find deep rest, and find a way forward. I can’t see the path, but until I do, my focus is just putting one step in front of the other until I find it. The world has been too much with us all.
Yes, it definitely was a year for sure. I’m sorry you were impacted so heavily by all the nonsense, greed, ridiculous behavior, maddening words, etc., etc. Helping with Iris has been a saving grace for me. I also (try) to stay clear of worrying about things that are beyond my control. I love your “more/less” list. I am focusing on having a gentle year.
It sure as hell was A. Year. last year… the firehose of constant turmoil is so troubling. (and I am right there with you on the insanity that is AI… it is such an unnecessary thing on the sea of unnecessary things) I am taking comfort in my kids… having quiet conversations with them… or sometimes loud and boisterous conversations. Though I am forging ahead with a word this year… it seems (already) to be the best part of the start of this year (along with Katherine May… my goodness despite Wintering being such a small book it is just jam packed with brilliance!) The idea of sinking into the season… giving in rather than fighting against it has been so unbelievably good. Sending you love and peace and joy… always. XO
I don’t remember who it was, but someone said that they already know that when the 30-day trial ends, they won’t want to renew 2026. And yeah, I’d have to agree.
I did a self-review of last year, and decided that on a personal level, it was not a terrible year, but one bookended by personal heartbreak. However, looking at it beyond my personal level, it was pretty grim, and sadly looks to be continuing into this year. I’ve been trying really hard to just live in a day at a time mode, and limit the amount of news and social media I consume. Gah.
Last year was easy for me to stay away from the full gamut of news as I had only myself to worry about which was a kinda good way to be distracted about politics. 🙂 This year I can already tell it is going to be rough going if I don’t do something to mitigate my interactions with the news. I like your list and it is certainly something to think about. My main focus this year, as a way of educating and distracting myself, is to dive more fully into the literature of Black America. I want to see their impact and contribution to the American literary canon. I hope to learn more about the culture that gave us some of the best literature, especially that which has not been read or taught in our schools. Learning about the American’s who have been left out of contributing and who’s been discounted over and over through the centuries feels like a form of radical resistance.
I’m not sure I have more to add to what’s already been said. The past year has been difficult for anyone with a brain and a heart. I’m sorry you have had such a tough year. I think taking a break in January is wise and your more/less list seems like a good starting point for moving forward. The ground shifts – daily and I don’t know that I’ve ever felt so vulnerable or powerless to make significant change. Kindness is what seems doable to me as well as helping locally. Take good care.
I’ve been thinking a lot about this in January. It is a struggle every day to not be overwhelmed by the state of our country. I’ve been pondering how to stay informed but not so triggered; I don’t have any answers yet. Being triggered means I still care and I don’t want to lose that but I can’t continue to live in this constant state of stress.
Kym-
Thank you for this post. Your words mean a lot to me. I’m grateful that you, and your wisdom, are in my world as we all navigate these times and struggle to find ourselves again. Thank you.