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Today, August 22, is our 41st wedding anniversary.
My, how those years (good ones, all) have flown by! As Tom and I were driving up north yesterday, we did some reminiscing . . . laughing and sharing stories about our day.
I thought it might be fun to share some of our stories with you; kind of give you the “backstage tour” of our day.
- It was 1981. We were only 22 when we got married. (So. Young.) Tom was in grad school at Colorado State, and I was working as the newspaper “dummier” (a real job) at The Coloradoan newspaper.
- We got married in Cheyenne (where our families lived and where we’d grown up, for the later years at least), about an hour north of where we lived in Fort Collins. Tom and I had both gone to the same church as kids, so that’s where we had the ceremony. And we had a very simple reception at my parents’ house afterward.
- Back in 1981, most weddings were low key events, at least by today’s standards. Nothing like the productions or destination weddings you see these days. In fact, we threw our wedding together in 4 months, and for a lot less than $1,000. I didn’t get my hair styled for the occasion. I didn’t get my makeup “done.” No pre-wedding spa treatment or mani/pedi for me and my “posse.” I just rolled out of bed, did my usual “primping,” and put on a wedding dress instead of my jeans! (And no one in my circle thought this was weird or unusual.)
- Tom spent the day before our wedding in the emergency room, having some bachelor party injuries seen to. (Can you feel my eyes rolling as I type.) Something about a trampoline and being out in the prairie without shoes and barbed wire. . .
- We had two last minute “ringers” in our bridal party. Not long before the wedding, Tom lost two of his groomsmen (and it wasn’t the bachelor’s party). His brother couldn’t get leave from the Coast Guard, and his college roommate had travel woes of his own. Luckily, his two best friends from high school were still there by his side, and we’ll be forever grateful for the other two who stepped in at the last minute. (And at least we knew them! **)
- I made all the dresses for my bridesmaids and the flower girl. (Sateen. What was I thinking?) My sister was my maid of honor. My best friend, and two sorority sisters rounded out my half of the bridal party. (The flower girl was a family friend of Tom’s parents.)
- I used to date the best man. (No drama there. It was no big deal, and. . . it’s how Tom and I met.)
- Tom let me make all the decisions for the wedding. He did, though, ask for one thing: He thought it would be fun to have Spiderman crawling up the side of the wedding cake. I ordered this instead . . .
- Yep. We had a spiderman groom’s cake. (My grandmother was mortified.)
- She was also mortified that we had a keg in the garage . . . and no coffee. (She did enjoy the champagne fountain, though.)
- The reception was very “homey” — easy, low-key, and fun. It was like we were giving a little party on a Saturday night. This picture with my parents just cracks me up. Here I am, posing at my reception in front of the “shrine-wall” in their family room. (If you look closely, you can just make out my high school and college diplomas, and various awards I earned over the years from band festivals, 4-H, and swim team.)
- We went to Southern California for our honeymoon — LA and San Diego. We visited Disneyland – a place we’d both wanted to go since we were kids. Turned out . . . Disney was not for us. We lasted about 3 hours and had to leave. It was crowded and kids were whining everywhere and it just wasn’t our gig. (We swore to each other that we’d never take any children we may have in the future to Disney.) (And we didn’t.) We enjoyed our days at the beach much more.
It’s fun to remember that time . . . 41 years ago.
Thanks for coming along and walking down memory lane with me today.
** I was a ringer in a wedding once. When we lived in Austin and I was back at school at UT, I had a government class with a girl named Linda. We were chummy, but just to sit in class with and maybe have a Coke afterward. Anyway, she was getting married in Dallas, and at the last minute (like a day or two before), one of her bridesmaids had to back out, and she had no one who could get to Dallas and step in. As a last resort, she asked me. So Tom and I had an all-expense trip to Dallas for a very swanky wedding and a stay at a nice hotel — and I got a free dress that was actually something I wore for years at other weddings. It was pretty funny, though. We were included at all the wedding events — the rehearsal dinner and related parties (Tom even was invited to the bachelor party). We knew no one (well, except Linda; kinda). People kept asking us . . . and who are you again? I’m sure Linda looks back at her wedding photos now and just sighs . . . trying to remember the name of that girl from her government class.
Happy Anniversary! Your church photo looks so much like mine. Thanks for taking us down this memory.
I love everything about this post! The photos, the stories, the details about your wedding day, it’s all so very YOU. My first wedding was BIG (200+ people) and in 1988. I also did my own hair and makeup but I didn’t make the bridesmaids dresses!!! LOL Happy Anniversary to you and Tom, I love you both!
Happy Anniversary and best wishes for many more years to come!
I remember when weddings were more down to earth…I think everyone involved had less stress and more joy!
Happy Anniversary! We were married in 1980…Fletcher’s brother was Best man and my best friend was my Maid of Honor. No one else in the wedding party. No fuss over make up and hair…we were just ourselves (albeit in a wedding dress and tux). I liked Disneyland when I was there (at age 12 or 13), but was thankful that Colin never had any desire to go there or Disney World! Love all the pics and I can’t believe you made all the dresses for your bridesmaids!!!
Happy Anniversary to you and Tom, and wishing you many more happy and healthy years together! We also got married in 1981 and planned the whole thing in one weekend because we were living (in sin, according to my grandmother) in FL and getting married in PA. It was down-to-earth and low-key, but alas, no Spiderman cake!
Happy Anniversary!! Beautiful wedding and fun memories. The Spiderman cake is a fantastic wedding story! Back then I’m sure very people had Marvel grooms cakes! So nice that your family and friends could be with you on that day. Your wedding is posh considering our eloping to Vegas.
When Jeff and I married on August 25, 1973, we had two additional cakes — one silver, one gold — because my parents and grandparents were celebrating their 25th (August 21) and 50th (August 23) anniversaries. (For good measure, our daughter was born August 27. But not in 1973!) Happy anniversary! Here’s to sane weddings.
Happy anniversary, you two! You were really such kids at your wedding, but you look the same (okay, your hair’s a little lighter these days). I think you had the right idea with your wedding and keeping it all simple — weddings now are so stressful! I do think you may have set a trend with having a groom’s cake, though. Here’s to many more happy years together!
Happy Anniversary! So nice to be able to say all good huh? 😉 Here’s to 41 more! It could happen! XO
Wow you made the dresses! I was just thinking how understated and elegant they were compared to the seafoam (SEAFOAM!) sateen dress I wore in 1984 for my brother’s wedding. It had a mesh panel at the top, lace everywhere, and a hoop skirt. I wish I still had the hoop skirt.
Happy Anniversary! What wonderful memories!
Happy Anniversary!! We’re just a bit behind y’all (39 this fall). It does seem like weddings were a lot more individual and personal back then. (and aren’t you glad to have both your kids through theirs? … we still have one to go … at some point!)
Happy anniversary! We also had a “substitute “ in our wedding…best man’s wife went into labour with their first child…I think he made the right decision to be with her😉!
Happy Anniversary! Loved your wedding description (so peaceful and calm) but, Kym, you stopped me dead when you said you made FOUR bridesmaid’s dresses. Were you at all stressed?? The only thing more stressful that I’ve heard was somebody Knitting their own elaborate wedding dress. But I’ll bet you probably were capable of that, too!
Happy Anniversary Week to both of you and Tom! I had never heard or a wedding “ringer” until this post… but photo in front of The Shrine Wall is awesome… and so appropriately parental! 🙂
Disney… what is the pull? After I divorced the kids dad, Heidi’s biggest dream in life was to go to Disney. So off we trekked to Florida to Disney (thanks Travel Agent perks!) I hated every second of it. But Heidi… thought she had died and gone to heaven. There’s one in every bunch isn’t there? (Rachel and Sam were not so impressed… and they have never been back but Heidi… of course she has!)
Happy Anniversary!!! I love your stories (especially with eye rolling)!! haha.
I have never been in a wedding except my own (as the bride) and my daughter’s (keeper of the rings… and not a very good one!).
My dad had always promised to take us to Disneyland (there was no “World”) when I was 16 and able to help drive, but it never happened. Rusty’s mom took him & his brother to Disneyland on Opening Day! His brother lived near there for most of his life and would get annual passes — obviously loved it! He gave us admission as a gift when Maddy was about 5. She hated Mr. Toad’s Wild Ride (our first) and I convinced her that it would be fun to ride The Matterhorn with me (not realizing what it was, exactly)… which she emphatically informed me WAS NOT FUN when it was over. It was Teacups for her the rest of the day. Otherwise, I have zero memory!!
Happy late Anniversary. I love your stories. We had a similar low key wedding in 1977. My grandmother’s neighbor made my dress. The fabric cost about $40 dollars and I loved it. We had a tier of petit-fours because for some unknown reason that is what I wanted.