We’re well past the mid-point of March, but I’ve decided to throw together a little R-E-P-O-R-T for you anyway . . . just as a quick way to showcase some of the highlights (and a few lowlights) of my recent trip to England.
C’mon along. . . and enjoy my R-E-P-O-R-T.
(By the way . . . that door? It is the North Door to St. Edward’s Church in Stow-on-the-Wold in The Cotswolds. This door is much visited and often photographed as it is one of J.R.R. Tolkein’s inspirations for The Lord of the Rings. It is Very Cool. Unfortunately, the church is currently undergoing interior renovations and was closed to visitors so I didn’t get a peek inside.)
R . . . ecovering.
I was in England for 12 days. I traveled with a friend, who happens to be an artist. Last summer, she proposed we visit England to take an art workshop, and it sounded like it might be fun . . . but also one of those ideas that would never actually fly, y’know? Well. This one flew, and before I knew it, I was registered for a 3-day painting workshop . . . and the trip was rapidly expanding to include several days of sight-seeing through the English countryside. Let’s just say . . . I got swept along in my friend’s travel planning frenzy and could barely keep my head above water.
(Here’s my advice: trust your instincts when it comes to traveling with a friend you have never traveled with before. Especially out of the country. Especially if they are extremely extroverted. Especially if the trip is very long. Lessons learned.) (For months, I’ve been living the U-2 song “stuck in a moment and I can’t get out of it.”)
Anyway. After flying into (and eventually out of) Heathrow, we traveled to Bath for a couple of days, moved on to The Cotswolds for a while, and then moved north to the Staffordshire Moorlands where the art workshop was located. It was a lot. (And it wasn’t planned terribly well, so there were . . . challenges . . . we needed to address on the ground.) (Like. . . every day.)
So. I am recovering not just from the travel and the jet lag, but also from a very stressful trip – and a very stressful few weeks before leaving on the trip (because I saw this coming). (Again . . . the U-2 song . . . )
The countryside was lovely, though. And spring was unfolding . . . and that is always a bonus.
E . . . nduring.
It’s hard when you return from a trip that was generally lovely but a little disappointing and quite stressful. I mean . . . what do you even say about it? People expect you to tell them you had a “wonderful time.” But what if . . . you really didn’t? What do you say then? So, pardon my honesty here. It WAS lovely. I was very lucky to have an opportunity to visit places I’d always wanted to see . . . and I know it. But it was also incredibly stressful and I didn’t get enough exercise and, well. It was long. I tried to make the best of things, and generally I did. Thanks to a well-timed message from my son, I began to think of it as an adventure I’d never have again. I did pull myself together and I did . . . endure.
But it wasn’t “wonderful.”
P . . . ainting.
The 3-day painting workshop was great. THE highlight of the trip, for sure. It was everything I had hoped for. Actually . . . it was more than I had hoped for. The setting was incredible and inspiring. The instructors were talented artists and inspired teachers – supportive and motivating. The materials were unlimited. And I learned so much! I was actually exhausted at the end of each of those 3 days. (This part of the trip actually WAS “wonderful” — and I’ll tell you/show you more about it next week.)
Here are my completed paintings, which the art school is shipping to me. (I couldn’t take them on the plane; not enough space in my suitcase.)
O . . . verflowing.
Another good thing to come out of this trip (and there were good things; I just have to keep looking for them) was a steady flow of ideas and inspiration. The art workshop was a big part of that. I really did learn so much there – color theory and composition and technique; so many ideas. And the other participants (from all over England; there were 12 of us in the workshop) inspired me, too.
But I also had a fair amount of time to myself (this introvert took daily quiet time to recharge) for breathing . . . and thinking. I needed the break and the re-set, and I have ideas for how I want to move forward with . . . life and garden and blog and my own art. So that was good, too.
R . . . ambling.
I mentioned earlier that I didn’t get enough exercise on my trip. As you have probably surmised, my traveling companion and I turned out to be . . . well . . . not exactly compatible, and our individual fitness levels/needs were part of that equation. I WAS already aware of this going into the trip (although perhaps not the extent of the situation), and had planned to seek my own ways of exploring and moving . . . which didn’t exactly work out like I had hoped. We managed some gentle rambles together, though, which provided vistas of the lovely English countryside — and some fresh, spring air (always welcome).
T . . . ending.
Now that I’m home, I’m tending to All The Things. My own heart and soul. My garden. My life that has been rather “on hold” for several weeks. My family. My dog. My relationships . . . including the relationship with my traveling companion.
Travel is always a good thing — even when it’s not as “wonderful” as you’d hoped it would be. It opens your mind. It challenges your assumptions. You find out a good bit about yourself and how you “are” in the world. You also learn how resourceful and resilient you can be — especially when you’re under pressure.
I’m glad to be home.
And at some point, I bet I’ll be glad to have gone away, too.
So sorry your trip was not “wonderful”. So glad you were honest. When I was young I traveled blithely with others regardless of compatibility (despite being a shy introvert). But when I got much older I chose “single occupancy” on a cruise and so glad I did. Two women came up to me separately who were thrown together by the cruise people to say how miserable they were with their cabin mates. Among many other things, one was a morning person and the other was a night person and were constantly waking each other up. So you are not alone. My sympathies. But I love your paintings and your idyllic English countryside photographs. And please keep on traveling (in your own way).
Thanks for your honesty. I am introverted enough that I have rarely agreed to travel with people that I wasn’t completely compatible with, but that has also limited me to some extent. Even traveling with compatible people is stressful! But you learned some things, you painted, you saw some awesome sights, and you’re not flying out of Heathrow today (after a fire). I hope you can regroup, mend/tend relationships, and can begin to live without being under additional pressure. Just being a citizen in this country is taxing enough and I would need medication if any more was added.
12 days is a long time with anyone when you’re traveling. Your photos are amazing.
Beautiful photos! I once traveled with a very long time, dear friend. She didn’t stop talking for 8 days. I kind of knew going in but boy oh boy was it stressful!
I’m sorry only parts of the trip were wonderful, but I totally get where you’re coming from. I find travel itself to be stressful and exhausting, so even if I enjoy every minute when I’m actually where I’m going, the getting there and coming back always takes away a bit of enjoyment. I am glad that the workshop was the best part, and it certainly looks like you saw some inspiring sights. For the record, if you ever want a do-over on a trip like this and want to travel with someone who is similarly physically active and introverted, I will be happy to go with you! 😉
I know what you mean when you say you don’t know what to tell people when they ask how your trip was. I was in the same position last month after a trip to Italy. My husband had a great tim; me, not so much. People expect that any vacation – in particular one to Europe- should be the most wonderful time ever and sometimes it just isn’t.
I’m so glad that the painting workshop was stimulating for you! Travel is hard….and harder for us introverts. How great that your son was able to give you a perspective to work with. Aren’t adult offspring the best?!
(Glad you were home before the debacle at Heathrow today)
I hope you will visit us in England again. Our scenery is so diverse it’s better taken slowly, perhaps in small ‘chunks’ and the amount of history can be a bit overwhelming! 😊 Rambling along our public footpaths is a good antidote to stress…😊
I am eager to hear more about this incredible painting workshop, Kym! I am sorry the stress levels were so high for you… and I really wish you had more rambling time. (That is the tour I want to take in England… a walking tour!) I hope that your friendship can weather this trek… (and I am thinking that she likely felt many of the same things you did) Nurture your self, snuggle your pup and your spouse… and breathe in deeply the awakening spring… it is so good for de-stressing oneself! XO
The photos are beautiful. I am glad the painting workshop class was a great experience. I look forward to hearing more about it. I’m sorry parts of the trip were stressful and challenging. I wonder what a little distance from the trip will do for your ideas about it. You learned somethings about art and yourself and arrived home safely. Take some time to nurture yourself.
I am SO proud of you for writing honestly about your trip. I’m sure it can’t have been easy but I also know that doing so has likely given you a better perspective on it all and helped to identify some good although with the Not Great. Your photos are gorgeous and make me want to go and see those lovely little villages and stone cottages and rolling hills. And I’m especially glad that the art workshop was everything you hoped it would be and then some. That will serve you greatly going forward, I’m sure.
Your travel stress is totally understandable, even with a good companion travel is hard. Being away for 10 days and coming home is like missing 10 days of your life (or more!).
The pictures make your landscape look traditionally English and quite iconic. The church windows! I would like to see the light through them. The very old stone homes and the rural landscape are just what I would want if I ventured into that world, but not being able to be you, care for yourself, and be at the mercy of others, it is just hard.
Was the class at the end of the trip when you’re just so…tired. It does sound as if it was worth the effort and you’ll most likely find things you learned that you’ll draw on as time goes on.
Hope you’ve had a chance to get back into the world you left and draw what you need to heal your mind.
I appreciate your honesty, Kym – the photos do look lovely and I know how glad you are to be back home. Also, the art class! and your paintings! hope you’ll share more.
This feels like an important post in the processing of it all. It actually made my chest constrict quite a bit… I’ve had a few friends, all of whom I know would be disastrous traveling companions for me, who know I love to travel so they say, “We should do a trip together!” And my inner response is along the lines of “Never.”
I was nodding along with you here—AND I’m glad you have these stunning(!) photos to look back at to remind you of the upsides. (Your class!! And your artwork!! And the message from your son—wow.)
I didn’t realize, at the outset, that the trip was 12 days. That’s a tall order. Embrace grace as you collect your Self.
I really value your honest, plain R-E-P-O-R-T-ing here.