I don’t do much holiday shopping these days. We’ve settled on giving cash to the kids (which they very much appreciate) (and it’s easy, too, so there’s that). As for the rest of my gift-worthy friends and family? We’ve all mutually agreed to skip the gift exchanges, so that makes things even easier shopping-wise. But I still like to pick up a few little . . . somethings . . . for my kids to unwrap. (Once a mom, always a mom.)
So a couple of weeks ago, I found myself wandering the shops of downtown Kalamazoo, determined to “shop local,” looking for those few little . . . somethings. I was in a little shop full of unique, artsy kinds of things when something called to me – rather loudly – from the back of the shop. Something on a sale rack.
It was not a little . . . something. It was a rather obnoxious cardigan. Color blocked. Bright colors. Wild prints. Certainly not anything I’d ever buy for Erin or Lauren. I moved on.
But it kept calling out to me.
I kinda . . . liked it.
For myself.
It reminded me – on this particular dreary winter day – of my garden exploding in June. Color and pattern and . . . joy. It was a little outrageous. Very unexpected. And, suddenly, I had to have it.
So now . . . I own a very bright, very outrageous cardigan.
A little piece of joy.
(And, yeah. Don’t tell Clara Parkes, but it’s acrylic.) (I’ll have to avoid open flames . . . )
And, well, it got me thinking.
This upcoming year feels . . . dark and dreary for many of us. I quite often feel like my best option might be to curl up in a corner and just Get Through It. But, well. Now I have this very outrageous cardigan. And I kinda feel like wearing it.
Maybe things are dark and dreary. But maybe it’s also time we counter all that darkness with . . . unexpected color and things that bring us feelings of . . .
Joy.
Energy and vibe.
Being alive.
I’m not suggesting that we all wear obnoxiously bright colors (although why not?), but I am suggesting that we pay attention to the quiet voices deep inside us. Those voices that niggle at us to try something new, to do something outrageous. And unexpected.
Why not . . . try making pottery, for example? Or picking up . . . say . . . the ukulele? Maybe schedule a trip to see something you’ve always wanted to see. Like . . . say . . . The Cotswolds (which is something outrageous I’m actually planning to do next year). Why not . . . Take an art class. Knit something really challenging. Take up needlepoint. Or bonsai. Ride a bike. Or a horse. Paint a room in your house an unexpected color. Order the crazy cocktail that comes in a giant glass. Don’t hold back with the karaoke.
Just because the new year feels dark and scary . . . well. It doesn’t mean we can’t find some joy in it.
Dig deep!
Try something outrageous.
“I don’t want to be demure or respectable. I was that way, asleep, for years.”
– Mary Oliver, Blue Horses, from ‘I Don’t Want to be Demure or Respectable’
Come.
Fill your cup.
I love that sweater! It is just such a spark of joy! And this is great advice… such great advice! (I am very much in the Take A Class camp in 2025… I want to try new things!) As for me… I’d love to go spend some time in The Dales in Yorkshire! And I have always really wanted to visit the Faroe Islands as well! Sometimes dreams can spark great joy as well! XO
There’s nothing wrong with a bright, warm, washable sweater that makes you feel good!
When I was working, I was a neutral dresser. You know the type. As I have gotten older and retired, my wardrobe is beginning to be full of bright colors and whimsy. Your advice is great advice, Kym. Life is short, we should all try new things whenever we can. I love your sweater!
I love that sweater!! Your hair is really cute, too!
That smile on your face really says it all, doesn’t it? Clearly the sweater was meant to be yours, and I hope it makes you smile like that every time you wear it!
The cardigan is fun!! I bought a silly fun one on Amazon (also acrylic, so very very soft) and it cheers me up even though I feel borderline silly in it.
I’ve been ruminating on a ‘big project’ for 2025 and the only one I’m coming up with organizing all of our paper files and while ok, yes, that is important it is not filling my cup!
I’m going to be knitting myself a BIG BRIGHT BLUE scarf in January. Let’s make 2025 full of color (and joy). ALSO, I love your hair!!
Love the sweater! I love wandering around small, local shops and finding something that just calls out to me.
I love that sweater. You wear it well – with joy. Yes, let’s find some joy in life. I decided awhile ago that I’m not letting the incoming president sap the joy and happiness from my life. I’ll do my best to speak for the vulnerable but I’m not spending the next four years obsessing about what I cannot change. And your hair looks darling. Did you have it cut a little shorter?
Such a fun sweater! It wouldn’t surprise me if you find people drawn to it. I hear there are some knitters in the Cotswolds.
That’s a great sweater and if it encourages you to feel joy and do bold things then I say GO FOR IT! The Cotswalds are on my list and the plan was fall of 2026 but now it looks like we may be going to Greece in October 2026 so the Cotswalds might have to wait a bit longer.
The cardigan is perfect! I is so cherry and bright. Perfect way to tell the world you are you!