What will become of us?
That was the big question I found myself asking whenever I woke up in the middle of the night . . . for those long months before the election. And, of course, that question only took up even more real estate in my head in the days immediately following the election.
What will become of us?
I hate that question. It’s so . . . passive. It feels so hand-wringy, so victim-y to me. Like we’re at the hands of forces beyond our control. (And, sure. We kinda are. But, still.) I’ve never liked passive questions. Or feeling like I have no control.
So one night, lying there in the dark, I decided to turn that question around.
What will become of us?
turned into . . . What will we become?
And more specifically: What will I become?
Now there’s a question that requires some action!
Action . . . on my part. No matter what else is happening in the world.
I started making a list.
I will become . . .
- a person who smiles a lot.
- someone who goes out of her way to be kind.
- that woman who always keeps her bird feeders filled.
- someone who is quick to compliment.
- someone who hums without shame,
- and looks for hope,
- and continues to be awed by sunsets.
- a very generous tipper.
- someone who unapologetically overdoes the twinkle lights.
- a person who shares.
My list is actually much longer than that. But that’s a good sampling. And a fine start.
What will we become?
That’s up to each of us!
“To be a human being among people and to remain one forever, no matter in what circumstances, not to grow despondent and not to lose heart – that’s what life is all about, that’s its task.”
– Fyodor Dostoyevsky
Come.
Fill your cup.
I have a book for you, What We’ll Build: Plans For Our Together Future by Oliver Jeffers. And I think you are on the right track 🥰
Oh my! You have voiced the worry that has been prodding me at night as well… and I love your turn around for that worry! I think this is a brilliant idea (and it really pairs well with the speech President Obama gave a few days ago… ) I think I need to make a list for myself and mark the page in my journal so I can check in with it frequently!
What a great turn-around Kym. And now, I think I know how I might start a journal for the new year! (Yes, I really am thinking about keeping a journal!!)
I like your thought progression and may need to make a list for myself. The first thing on it is to sing along with many of the parts of The Messiah while I’m listening. “All We Like Sheep” always makes me happy!
What a great reframing of that question. The antidote to worry is action and you’ve turned this around in a beautiful way.
Wise, wise advice, Kym. I must make a list!
This is a wonderful post. Thought provoking and encouraging. The Dostoyevsky quote is particularly apt, and a good kick in the ass. Thank you.
Thank you for this.
Thank you.
That is a very good flip of the narrative. Thank you!
What a beautiful way to reframe the situation! I love this so much.
Lovely lovely post. I will become the person who dances like no one is watching!
Love your list. I should smile more. But I love to give compliments on what people are wearing. That makes Them smile, which in turn makes Me smile and occasionally even leads to friendships, even if only briefly ones. Also love the Doestoyevsky quote.
I love this reframe and your generous spirit. During this time between the election and the inauguration, I find myself turning inward and thinking often of “how I want to be..” By the way, that sunset is spectacular. I love the winter sunsets. They feel like compensation for the dark and cold.
Once again you ask the right questions! AND have the great answers!
All of that, but usually whistling instead of humming! And it’s all just perfect, Kym, because no matter what, it starts with each of us.